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One way for guys to deal with a breakup is going into a wanton spiral of depression, emo music and self-destruction. While this continues to be one of the most popular methods that guys process the end of a relationship, we have some severe doubts about its effectiveness.
Fortunately, we have an alternative 31 ways to get your life back in the swing of things should you have a particularly emotional breakup.
The first way is to make a commitment now:
“No matter what, I’m going to take action… MASSIVE action… To get my life back in gear after any and all breakups.”
What’s great about this commitment is that you can make it whether you’re still in a relationship, recently single or a chronic bachelor… Because who knows what the future may bring? Doesn’t matter when, what matters is that you decide right now that:
“Yes. I’m willing to take MASSIVE action on my dating life.”
Once you’ve seriously considered this commitment, written it down on paper, made the emotional investment in it and are ready to put it into practice, then the hard part is done!
The other thirty reasons are as follows:
Get up, get suited up, get out, and head to where the highest amount of the most attractive women are walking about and say “Hi, what’s your name?” x 30 over 50-75 minutes.
Repeat this daily. As in, every day.
Why? Well, a recent or impending breakup may make us ‘sad,’ but by getting out and talking to 30 women every single day, we getting back on the right track. When we do everything we possibly can to get to where we want to be, it helps us allow ourselves to feel good while we get up, get out and meet 30 women every single day looking for the next Great One to come into our lives.
We do this not to interrupt, push aside or deny any negative emotions that may arise as a side-effect of the breakup, but rather to accept those emotions as a sign that things need to change… And when we need to change things, we get into high gear. Thus, those emotions are simply a sign-post of where we’re going in life.
Take “depression” for instance. Depression is a lack of action; it’s stagnation. If you at the word “depress,” you can break it down to “de” and “press” – “de,” the prefix for “not,” and “press,” as in “press on,” or “press forward.” By not pressing on, guys stop taking action, get stagnant and as a result feel all black-trenchcoaty.
Looking at it like this, the solution is easy – take action. What’s great about taking action regardless of an individuals present mental make-up (as opposed to taking action because of trying to get to / being “in state”) is that it serves as a rock solid foundation to progress forward towards goals in the face of the inevitable ups and downs we face in life. The more audacious and the more bold the action, the quicker the down-time will be.
Someone once said procrastination is a great skill when properly applied. By loading up our schedule with the massive undertaking of talking to 30 women per day, we give ourselves something tangible to work on as we process complicated emotions that come along with a breakup. Action like this transmutes any feeling that may have been mislabeled as “emptiness” into pure willpower and drive.